I've found many women are capable of putting up with the .32 revolvers better than a .38spl.
I got one of those Charter Arms revolvers in .38 with pink grips just for her, and even loaded up some mild wadcutters for her so as not to make too much blast and noise. But she still didn't like it and therefore never shot it. She likes my little S&W M&P .22 compact,...but so do I and I don't want to give it up. I finally came across an old but very good condition .32Long Iver Johnson top-break double-action. She's one of those gals into old-timey antique things, and when I explained to her it was a ladies pistol over 100 years ago, suddenly, she took to it. I got some mother of pearl grips for it, and she loves the thing.